Tuesday, April 12, 2011
Unique Opportunities.
Last nights class was so great! I love hearing stories from people who have journeyed farther in life than I have myself. Through hearing from Abby and Michael, and Rusty and Stephanie I have learned a lot of things about what marriage will look like and even more about what it will not. My favorite aspect that I took away from the discussion was that each relationship is unique and that there is no perfect formula that will yield an amazing relationship. Every person is different and when combined there are multiple different directions their lives could go in. I have found through this activity that there are a few aspects of the relationships modeled before me that I want in my own relationship but also others that I know I do not want present in my future relationship. If there was an egalitarian/hierarchical spectrum I think I would be closer to the middle but on the egalitarian side for sure. I think that making decisions together is so important, and also realizing that you are weak in some areas that your partner will be stronger in then using them to help in those situations. Working out of your weaknesses and strengths together and growing together is what makes the relationship so beautiful and amazing. I am in awe of how much Christ can be shown through relationships and that by showing grace we are being Jesus to the person. I can not wait until I have the opportunity to grow significantly in this specific way through relationship but at the same time I understand that if I am faithful and loving to those around me now God will bless me by giving me even more in the future to be faithful with and loving to.
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ReplyDeleteThis week in class we had two couples come and share about their marriage. They were asked several questions relating to who does what around the house, which person acts as the spiritual leader, how they met, and what their personalities are like etc. It was interesting to hear the differences between the two couples answers. Both held to egalitarian philosophies but in different ways. Abby and her husband seem like they take equality very seriously. They described how the household tasks are divided up almost equally except when one person is busier than the other. Rusty and his wife on the other hand do not do an equal share of the housework. However, this is not to say that their relationship is not egalitarian or unfair in any way. This is probably what I found most interesting. Couples do things differently because that’s what works best for them and not because they are trying to be egalitarian or complimentarian. Each person does what he or she is good at in order to help the other person. If their marriage looks more traditional with the woman doing the cooking and cleaning and the man working out of the house, that’s ok. It is equally acceptable for the man to cook if that is what he likes to do. What is important is that individuals in relationships are doing what works for them and not what they think they should do or what other people are doing.